out of the woods

Okie, listen while reading/listen before reading, up to you :}

anyways, topic for my post this time is got to do with friends. I sneaked out of my house the other night and cabbed down to Macpherson Mrt station to find a joie. She's a girl whom i share a good relation with. Sometimes, she'll mia from my life for awhile and i'd wonder what happened to being close. Then again, i tend to forget that sometimes, i have to be the one to start talking first. There are friends who do value just that i forever tend to underestimate how much they do because im too absorbed with my idiotic thoughts and self-pity. (hands up if you do feel like that at times).

If you want to meet someone, invite; its that simple, dont complicate things

That be a lesson that took me some time to realize heh.So yes friends, i bet you hate it too rights? when you feel forgotten by friends you that you literally do value against the entire social circle that you're in. Sometimes, when you're in a dark moment and you ring up/text a friend expecting a reply for some peace of mind. However, sadly they happened to be busy and you end up sitting in your little 'emo corner' and go FML even my friend does not want to consult me. Hmmmm, been there done that, got over it.

Firstly, after some times of thought processing, i came to believe that:

• we've only 1 life, no such thing as 'in another life~~~~' , dont spend the bulk of it sulking and believing that you're totally forgotten. If you're forgotten then stand up and learn to be someone who'll make ppl's eyes flood when you pass on. You came to life crying, you die with cherished people crying, that be the saddest but also the greatest victory in your life.
• Complication....what do i mean????.... naturally as humans we're selfish larh, we do not want to be the one that starts, we want to be the one that has been called out. Nonetheless, understand that as everyone around grows a year older, they also tend to get even busier and they may not forget you but the thought of spending time with you hasnt really gotten into their mind yet ince you're the first....whys not be the one to send an invitation, you'll never know the outcome :}
• You yourself have to busy yourself, if you be so free like a lurk and feel so jackassed because everyone else are caught up with life, then find something to make your life more meaningful; you're only young once, make the most out of it. Live in such a manner you accomplish things that you thought you wont be able to do when you grow older and you're a mom/dad by then.
• Just because it seems that everybody hates you, its just SEEMINGLY, there are bound to be some people who actually cares and doesnt mind being good friends with you. I learnt that during my 'O' level year when i drift from friends and became naise friends with a few others who acutally show that they do care for my existance and i marked the end of my o level period with a good departure
• Life is harsh enough already, being alittle more optimistic helps you go through it a hell lot easier.

so yes about my night spent with joie? it was nostalgic. It felt like a paradise get away from that lonely pace that i was going while im at home and wondering how piercing reality felt. Imagine 2 17 old girls, mousing around and walking in light steps to bypass her parents'room ( yes i sneaked in). then chatting in the dead of the night. It was a fantastic get away at only $5++ (cab fare). wonder isn't it:} so yes, the advantages of calling the shots sometimes are but a blessing to those who are weary of the many down sides life has got to offer....my main advice?

live life the simple way :}....

1. want to go out?........invite'
2. miss someone?........just tell the person, regardlessly
3. love somebody...... (inspired by We bought a Zoo film)... acutally, 1min for those weak heart, 30 secs for those who are headstrong
4. bored?.... seek out something to do rather than procrastinate about it
5. in a complicated situation?..... be the one on the less complicated side
6. tired?.............. take a breather, it does wonders
7. a friend drift away from you?...........be the one to pull him/her back or simply move on :}
8. broke up?.....still love him and he loves you? be happy about it and pray for a miracle ( this is just for me larh).
9. pessimistic?.... change/ get the hell out of this blog
10. there's b!tches and bastard in your life?..... lift your head high and walk away, its altogether ACTUALLY...your choice if you allow them or not. they dont stay long anyways. revenge is sweet when you dont lift a finger and let God do it for you. * personal experience*